When you walk into a room, others look at you and a smile appears on their faces. You bring with you a quality that makes people feel good about themselves. Others enjoy your company. And you also feel good because, it feels good to be liked by others. But not everybody is happy with you for the right reasons. Some see you as one who is eager to please. You rarely disagree. You even say things that you don't agree with at heart. Is it because you agree with everything the other person says or does? Of course, not! You are sensible in overlooking the minor disagreements and not making an issue of every little detail. That's your good quality. But is there something else along with it? Are you afraid of disappointing the other person, fearing that your disagreement will spoil a good relationship?
Behaviors built over many years
For most bipolar patients diagnosis comes much later than when the illness starts to affect them. Acceptance comes later still. By then, the illness has already had a significant impact on behavior. And how wrong it would be to assume that, it is just the bipolar patient and his illness. No! During all this time he has lived among family and community, being treated a certain way. As is so often the case, undiagnosed bipolar disorder means suffering in secret. Suffering makes us strong. Suffering can also bend the will where suffering doesn't break the will. Not having a way of understanding the pain and absolutely no way of wishing it away, alleviating at least some of the pain can become a strong motivation. Social rejection is extremely painful, especially when it seems to be coming for no good reason. Pleasing others to keep them happy and somehow keeping a relationship going can seem like a good choice. I don't think it is even very much a conscious choice. With time, the behavior sets in and nobody gives a second thought, unless there is a reason to do so.